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[netmouse]

Thanks to jer_, today's Talk Hard! is on a topic I would not have thought of on my own: Cologne and Perfume Should Not Be Applied To Your Holiest of Holies.

This was also post number 42.

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So this inspires me to ask a question: What advice have you ever been given about sex and sexuality, about clothing or making friends or having sex or being sexy, turned out to be totally wrong? What rumors have you heard among young people that you can't believe they pass on? What were the similar rumors when you were a teen?

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the first time

[cos]

Oh oh oh! how could I forget this one: "The first time is special" or "make sure your first time is special" or variations thereof. I really hate that one. No! Each time you have sex is what you & the other person make of it. There's no particular reason why the first time has to be specialer. In general, sex gets better as you keep going, and more special the more times you have it with the same partner, is what I've found. But the "first time is special" myth causes all sorts of badness. Pressure on oneself during that first time, that actually makes it worse for a lot of people than it would otherwise be; hesitance to experiment or try sex even when one is quite ready, thus getting to a first "special" time with less experience and thus making less of it. Yuck all around.